Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Offers Teleseminar Packed With Tips On How Grandparents Can Connect With Grandchildren

These days grandparents feel more and more out of touch with their grandchildren. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, a positive psychologist, educator and author of fiction books for teens and tweens, believes teens and tweens can learn valuable life skills from grandparents in spite of an ever widening generational gap. In her new teleseminar, available for download at no charge, she demonstrates how and why grandparents can take a lead role in the grandchild's social development without stepping on the toes of parents

In today's technological world, grandparents often feel unable to connect with their grandchildren. They often feel neglected, out of touch or out of sync. This is very unfortunate, as it is often a grandparent who can provide much needed guidance in regards to helping a grandchild develop the social and intellectual skills needed to become a good citizen. Establishing communication between the grandparent and grandchild is the key. The problem is sometimes related to overcoming the challenges inherent in new technologies grandparents do not understand. At other times parents themselves can present barriers. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein believes these challenges can and indeed must be overcome. She is offering a no charge teleseminar download to grandparents and group leaders to help guide them in making the right decisions. The important topics covered in the teleseminar dovetail with the concepts presented in the second book in The Truth Series, 'Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…Maybe!’.

"There are three important reasons," stated Dr. Holstein, "why parents, grandparents and teachers should download this seminar and then share 'Secrets' with the teens and tweens in their lives:

* You have a window into the most innermost thoughts and feelings of a young person.

* You can use this window for discussion and really getting to know the child or teen in your life.

* You will have the fun of a trip for yourself down memory lane as you read about the girl's adventures."

Many grandparents feel out of touch in a world dominated by computer, social networking and cell phone technologies. But if grandparents realize how important they are, they can take the time to step up to the plate. It is the grandparent who can create magical moments through one on one interaction with a grandchild. Grandparents can help grandchildren develop curiosity, develop their intellects and help them develop effective social skills. In a world where most two parent families must work to support the family, it is the perhaps retired grandparent who can help fill in the gaps. The end result is that the grandchild may grow up to be a fine, caring and knowledgeable person with a desire to help others and be able to socialize with people of all ages.

"The youngster, teen or tween," continued Dr. Holstein, "can also benefit from sharing 'Secrets' in many ways:

* The grandchild can enjoy a great fictional read with all the twists and turns that happen at this age, such as finding a best friend, crushes, moving, family issues, moods, etc

* The youngster will see that it is ok to have lots of moods, feelings and new ways of viewing themselves and the world at their age

* They will feel reinforced to be themselves in all their glory."

The no charge seminar and links to 'Secrets - You Tell Me Yours I'll Tell You Mine - Maybe!' can be found at www.enchantedself.com/teleclassgrandparenting.html . Dr. Barbara speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found on the web, along with hundreds of her articles and stories. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Simple Pleasures, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, and Family Circle Magazine. She was quoted in an article entitled 'What A Big Mistake Can Teach You' in the September issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine. She can be reached using the information below or by email at drbarbara@enchantedself.com.

Profile:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist and Happiness Coach, is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for increasing happiness. Dr. Holstein has been a school psychologist for over 25 years. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Her pathfinder book ‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’ was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. Her second book ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!’ has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book. ‘DELIGHT’, Dr. Holstein’s third book is available in two versions, paperback and a CD-rom that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice.

Her book, ‘The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything)’ is a first in positive psychology. It is a fiction book for girls, tweens and teens. Written by an 11 year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has embedded within the story positive truths and concepts geared to help girls develop self-esteem and resiliency.

Her second book in The Truth Series is Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!’ The girl is now 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends. Kids and grandparents have a book they can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations. This book can make a wonderful holiday gift from grandparent to grandchild to begin to open those lines of communication. Purchasers of Secrets will receive a DVD of one of Dr. Holstein's teleclasses or the audio edition of Recipes for Enchantment, at no charge. Simply write to her at drbarbara@enchantedself.com with proof of purchase and a mailing address. All books are available at the author’s websites below, online booksellers and stores nationwide.

Contact:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave.,
Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
732-571-1200
www.enchantedself.com
www.thetruthforgirls.com
drbarbara@enchantedself.com

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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Offers Tips On How Grandparents Can Connect With Grandchildren

Dr. Holstein is a positive psychologist, educator and author of fiction books for teens and tweens. She believes teens and tweens can learn valuable life skills from grandparents in spite of an ever widening generational gap. Time comes at a premium to today's overworked and frazzled parent. Daycare is not the answer. It is instead the grandparent who has the time to take a lead role in the grandchild's social development

Parents today are literally overwhelmed. Who has the time to focus on a child's emotional and developmental needs? Oftentimes it is not the parent. Most parents are frazzled, living on the edge of exhaustion and deep into multi-tasking. Parents are of course responsible for all the basics that a child needs. They provide the housing, the trips to the pediatrician, the late night soothing after a bad dream, the trips to the mall for school clothing, and most of the daily needs that children have, such as getting a ride to school, and sitting at the table for dinner.

But who has the time for the magical moment with a child? Who has the time to really listen to what she is saying and even write it down, next to a digital picture of the moment when it was said? Probably not the child's mom or dad. And who has the time to help her develop the social and intellectual skills she really will need to be a good citizen?

Most likely it will be the grandparent. If grandparents realize how important they are they can take the time to step up to the plate. It is a grandparent who can have the magical moments with a grandchild; to find those flowers to press and start the rock collection and sit in the window seat chatting about how it was to grow up long ago. And in grabbing those magical moments a grandparent does something else. The grandparent will be doing a great service to the next generation. The grandparent will be helping them grow in three basic ways that no one else in the world may have the time or patience to attend to. Here they are:

1.Grandparents can help grandchildren develop curiosity. Nothing stirs the mind to be curious than someone else so fascinated by a subject that you just have to learn more. Grandparents have the time to be fascinated and to pass that feeling along. For example, just learning how to grow tomatoes in a barrel can be interesting and exciting for both grandparent and grandchild. Or perhaps a neighbor speaks in sign language and it is grandma who decides both she is grandchild will learn to also speak that way. The determination of the grandparent can rub off on a grandchild. The grandchild will then see the world as a multi-faceted marvelous place that grandma has helped her notice!

2. As grandparents we can help our grandchildren develop their intellects. Whether you live around the corner or thousands of miles away, you can send your grandchild books, interesting articles, puzzles, games, etc. And you can make sure that when you are with her you teach her lots of stuff. You can discuss the news, find countries on the globe, play word and number games, read plays aloud. All is good for developing the mind and expanding the mind so that your grandchild will think beyond her direct environment.

3. As grandparents we can help grandchildren develop social skills. You have the time to teach manners; perhaps how to set a table or how to open a door for grown-ups. You can take her out to eat, even if it is at the local diner. And you can teach her how to read a menu, eat with intention and enjoyment, make good conversation as she eats, etc. You can teach her how to ballroom dance, or maybe square dance. You can take her to meet your friends or to do good needs. She can help you at the local food canteen or socialize with your friends.

What is the result? The grandchild may grow up to be a fine, caring, knowledgeable person with a desire to help others and be able to socialize with people of all ages.

Dr. Barbara speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found on the web, along with hundreds of her articles and stories. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Simple Pleasures, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, and Family Circle Magazine. She was quoted in an article entitled 'What A Big Mistake Can Teach You' in the September issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine. She can be reached using the information below or by email at drbarbara@enchantedself.com

Profile:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist and Happiness Coach, is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for increasing happiness. Dr. Holstein has been a school psychologist for over 25 years. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Her pathfinder book ‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’ was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. Her second book ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!’ has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book. ‘DELIGHT’, Dr. Holstein’s third book is available in two versions, paperback and a CD-rom that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice.

Her book, ‘The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything)’ is a first in positive psychology. It is a fiction book for girls, tweens and teens. Written by an 11 year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has embedded within the story positive truths and concepts geared to help girls develop self-esteem and resiliency.

Her second book in The Truth Series is Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!’ The girl is now 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends. Kids and grandparents have a book they can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations. This book can make a wonderful holiday gift from grandparent to grandchild to begin to open those lines of communication. Purchasers of Secrets will receive a DVD of one of Dr. Holstein's teleclasses or the audio edition of Recipes for Enchantment, at no charge. Simply write to her at drbarbara@enchantedself.com with proof of purchase and a mailing address. All books are available at the author’s websites below, online booksellers and stores nationwide.

Contact:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave.,
Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
732-571-1200
www.enchantedself.com
www.thetruthforgirls.com
drbarbara@enchantedself.com

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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Offers Tips On Child and Teen Obesity And Adolescent Eating Disorders

Dr. Holstein is a positive psychologist, educator and author of fiction books for teens and tweens. She believes teens and tweens can learn best through reading engaging and educational fictional accounts of others facing serious issues

Recent reports have noted that movie theaters are losing money as the result of being forced to change the seats in the cinemas from 19 inches wide to 21 inches wide. This is but a result of the problem of obesity our society must face. This problem is magnified for teens and tweens however, as it is during this time period that self image is formed. Many forms of education are offered our youth to attempt to educate and guide them during these formative years. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein believes there is one form of such messages that can directly engage teens and tweens and help them like no other form can: educational fiction.

"Fiction writing," stated Dr. Holstein, "has given me, a positive psychologist and educator, a way of providing self-help information and support to girls, tweens, teens and the adults in their lives. There are so many topics to tackle: bullying, family dysfunction, relocation, crushes and of course body issues. In The Truth Series, the girl faces and handles many of these issues. It is in the second book, Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I'll Tell You Mine...Maybe!, at the age of 13 she begins her own journey with how she perceives and handles her body. The girl is concerned that she is getting too heavy. Her frank diary entries make wonderful leaping off points for discussion. I also include questions at the end of the book for further thought. We have a national epidemic going on. Real obesity in children is one problem; the perception of being overweight is another. Either or both can lead to various forms of eating disorders."

As a psychologist and educator, Dr. Holstein is on the front lines of helping parents help children grow up strong, resilient, confident of their self-image and themselves. To this end, she offers the following tips:

1. Praise your children for their positive actions, behaviors and words. Make it clear that their response to life as a good citizen and a loving family member is much more important than their looks or body type.

2. Don't compare or judge people's looks or bodies. Rather point out a person's fine character trait or a good deed that a person has done. Your children are always listening to you and what you say, even if you think they are blocking you out! Your attitude very much influences how they will perceive others and themselves.

3. Show your children by your own eating habits, that you recognize the need for eating healthy foods. If you are out of control around certain foods and habits, what message is that sending to your kids?

4. Consider planting a small garden or learning more about the foods we eat with your children. This can be a fun activity like visiting a potato chip factory, or something more serious, like learning about the differences between organic farming and non-organic farming.

5. Cook up delicious meals, at least on occasion, and let the kids help. It can be fun to find recipes together and shop for the ingredients as a family outing. Praise them for their help and don't get caught up in the milk that spills or the egg that fell and cracked on the floor.

6. Enjoy exercising as a family. Going to the gym or doing a sport together can be wonderful. But simply putting on music and dancing around the house or in the kitchen can burn lots of calories and led to laughs, hugs and feeling connected as a family.

7. And of course, if you child is suddenly gaining or losing weight or showing any form of eating disorder, talk to a pediatrician immediately.

Dr. Barbara speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found on the web, along with hundreds of her articles and stories. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Simple Pleasures, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, and Family Circle Magazine. She can be reached using the information below or by email at drbarbara@enchantedself.com

Profile:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally know Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for increasing happiness. Dr. Holstein has been a school psychologist for over 25 years. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Her pathfinder book ‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’ was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. Her second book ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!’ has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book. ‘DELIGHT’, Dr. Holstein’s third book is available in two versions, paperback and a CD-rom that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice.

Her book, ‘The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything)’ is a first in positive psychology. It is a fiction book for girls, tweens and teens. Written by an 11 year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has embedded within the story positive truths and concepts geared to help girls develop self-esteem and resiliency

Her second book in The Truth Series is Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!’ Now the girl is 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends. Kids and parents have a book they can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations.

All books are available at the author’s websites below, online booksellers and stores nationwide.

Contact:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave., Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
732-571-1200
www.enchantedself.com
www.thetruthforgirls.com
drbarbara@enchantedself.com

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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Offers Tips To Ease The Anguish For Teen And Tween Victims of Cyberbullying

The recent New York Times article, ‘Online Bullies Pull Schools Into the Fray’, outlined the modern day problems teens and tweens face in the today’s online culture. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, author of The Truth, (I’m A Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything) offers tips for parents to help combat cyberbullying

The explosive growth of cell phones, computers and online social sites have created a modern day problem that parents of teens and tweens must face and hopefully overcome – cyberbullying.

Remember when a tiny note rolled up and passed along in class could be devastating? Or someone changing tables in the cafeteria as you sat down could be a message that hurt for months? These sorts of events were awful and children were known to cry themselves to sleep over such innocent slights and hurts.

“Just magnify that by 1000,” stated Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, “and you get closer to what today's kids have to deal with. The New York Times article brilliantly outlines the typical nightmares that many kids of today face and also the difficulties that schools have in curbing much of it. After all, schools of today, just as 30 years ago, can't control what happens after school or on the weekend. As a psychologist and school psychologist I take very seriously what is happening to today's kids. Parents and schools need to respond and act, not just react.”

Parents are, as always, on the front line of the child’s development. This means parents must:

* Make themselves available to the child at meals, in the car, in the evening when possible, and on the weekends.

* Not use cell phones, phones, or computers when the child is expecting and may need connection, help, advice or simply love. Research shows that kids don't like it when their parents are only giving them partial concentration.

* Refuse to talk on a cell in the car when the child is in the car. They should also refuse to bring any phone to the dinner table, and not answer the phone during mealtime, except during emergencies.

* Make certain to have meals with the child at least three nights a week.

* Plan weekend time as a family. During that time, whether a picnic or a visit to a relative, set aside only brief times when anyone uses technology.

In the NYT article, Maeve Cannon, a 14-year-old eighth grader advising younger people how to avoid bullying, was quoted as saying, "If you're under 13, you shouldn't even be on Facebook." Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein agrees 100% with Maeve and would even take the advice further.

"If you child is under 13,” she stated, “he or she should be so tired at night from school work, hobbies, studying an instrument or taking a sport, helping with chores, socializing with family and friends, that the very thought of lifting a finger to talk on a keyboard, without the human input of a smile or a grimace, just wouldn't make sense!"

She further states: "Bullying is often the outgrowth of excess emotions and energies that are not more wholesomely directed. Feelings and thoughts can run amuck in anyone, particularly youngsters already experiencing so many emotional and bodily changes, when they are not challenged, encouraged and taught how to make good use of their time."

Dr. Barbara speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found on the web, along with hundreds of her articles and stories. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Simple Pleasures, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, and Family Circle Magazine. She can be reached using the information below or by email at drbarbara@enchantedself.com

Profile:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally know Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for increasing happiness. Dr. Holstein has been a school psychologist for over 25 years. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Her pathfinder book ‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’ was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. Her second book ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!’ has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book. ‘DELIGHT’, Dr. Holstein’s third book is available in two versions, paperback and a CD-rom that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice.

Her book, ‘The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything)’ is a first in positive psychology. It is a fiction book for girls, tweens and teens. Written by an 11 year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has embedded within the story positive truths and concepts geared to help girls develop self-esteem and resiliency

Her second book in The Truth Series is Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!’ Now the girl is 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends. Kids and parents have a book they can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations.

All books are available at the author’s websites below, online booksellers and stores nationwide.

Contact:

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave., Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
732-571-1200
www.enchantedself.com
www.thetruthforgirls.com
drbarbara@enchantedself.com

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