Friday, January 30, 2015

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Gives 5 Tips On How Not To Crush Your Daughter When She Has Her First Crush

Dr. Holstein is a Positive Psychologist and the author of a number of books in 'The Truth' series that help teens and tweens build self esteem and resiliency

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein has released an Expert Life Tips video entitled 'How Do I Deal With My Daughter's First Crush?' Dr. Holstein is an internationally recognized Positive Psychologist and author of a number of books that help teens and tweens build self esteem and resiliency. In this video Dr. Holstein offers 5 important tips that can help parents deal with their daughter's first crush.

1. Remember that you too had a first crush.  It is normal developmentally and good practice emotionally to have a crush.

2. Believe your daughter when she says that she is in love.  For the moment, she is.

3. After you accept her having a crush, be there for her.  Understand that she needs to share with you lots of the details.

4. Realize but don't crush her with the knowledge that she will probably marry someone else someday.  You probably did also.

5. Take pride in knowing you have helped your daughter up the developmental ladder from being a kid to becoming a young woman.

"Use these five tips," Dr. Holstein stated, "and you will have supported your daughter as she grows, not crushed her."

Dr. Holstein recently released "The Truth, Diary Of A Gutsy Tween". The new book is a revised and expanded edition of her very successful book, 'The Truth: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything'. The new book is published by Sky Pony Press.

A Facebook page, thetruthforgirls, highlights many of the topics woven into "The Truth".  Articles, videos, remarks, conversations, visuals, on this page center around many of the issues that tweens face growing up.  These include: self-esteem issues, quarreling in families, divorce, moving to a new home, a new school, best friends, a crush, bullies, a death in the family, money issues, not feeling pretty, feeling sad, feeling lonely, jealousy and more. Dr. Holstein's book for teens and tweens is a first in using fiction for embedding positive psychology concepts.

Her second book in The Truth Series is “Secrets: Diary Of A Gutsy Tween”. The book is scheduled for release in February of 2015.  Now the girl is 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends.  'Secrets' provides a book kids and parents and grandparents can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations.

Both “The Truth” and “Secrets” are great for parents, grandparents, older siblings and teachers to establish lines of communication with the tweens and teens in their lives. Both books are being re-released by Sky Pony Press.

Dr. Holstein's video is available at

Dr. Holstein is available for media interviews and can be reached using the information below or by email at All of her works are available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and all other online retailers. More information is available at her website at


Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for happiness.  She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness,  Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting.

She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine.


Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave.,
Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
Twitter: @truth4girls, and
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