Friday, September 19, 2014

Possible Selfie During Joan Rivers Medical Procedure - Psychologist Barbara Becker Holstein Offers Insight

Selfies have become a primary means for self expression for many people today. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein strongly urges discretion and common sense

A recent article on AOL referenced a story on a CNN report where it was reported that a staff member at the cardiac clinic where Joan Rivers went into cardiac arrest took a selfie while Joan Rivers was under anesthesia. If this is true, it raises many questions regarding if, when and where selfies are appropriate.

Dr. Holstein continues to make the public aware that selfies are here to stay, with the potential for both good and bad outcomes. "Of course, no one who was not in Joan Rivers' operating room really knows what went on in there," Dr. Holstein stated. "However, even the suggestion that a doctor or anyone in the operating room  may have taken the time to take a selfie during a medical procedure is distressing.  There is a fascination with recording the moment and selfies make it extremely easy to capture any moment anywhere.  Sometimes in order to capture ourselves in the moment we don't think clearly.  Some moments are best left not captured.   For instance, capturing a friend on the toilet, with you in the picture, as you walk by the bathroom in the dorm may not be cool once it is up on Facebook.  Better to be gracious and close the door to the bathroom. In my work with girls, tweens and teens I focus on teaching girls how to be proud of themselves and feel confident to take selfies of themselves that make them feel good, whether they share them with a best friend or simply use them as a means of creating a visual diary of their lives. It's important that we try to use good judgment in incorporating selfies into our lives."

Dr. Holstein is fascinated with how selfies have impacted society, and the effects on teens and tweens. She recently released "The Truth, Diary Of A Gutsy Tween". The new book is a revised and expanded edition of her very successful book, 'The Truth: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything'. The new book is published by Sky Pony Press.

Dr. Holstein is also offering Creative performance workshops.  The first one took place on Thursday, July 31 at the While House on Monmouth Rd. in Oakhurst, New Jersey.  The tweens made Selfie posters about what makes them gutsy. Then they performed in videos based on story lines from 'The Truth, Diary of a Gutsy Tween'.  What made the experience creative and unique for the tweens was that they got to act as the girl and her best friend Angela in scenes based on the book, but then they got to do improvisational work where they developed the characters and the solutions to their problems way beyond what is written in the diary.  This was an amazing experience for the tweens, helping them to recognize not only their acting abilities but abilities to create, solve problems and modify beyond the script given to them.  They left the Workshop feeling empowered, which is what being gutsy is all about.

A Facebook page, thetruthforgirls, highlights many of the topics woven into "The Truth".  Articles, videos, remarks, conversations, visuals, on this page center around many of the issues that tweens face growing up.  These include: self-esteem issues, quarreling in families, divorce, moving to a new home, a new school, best friends, a crush, bullies, a death in the family, money issues, not feeling pretty, feeling sad, feeling lonely, jealousy and more. Dr. Holstein's book for teens and tweens is a first in using fiction for positive psychology.

Her second book in The Truth Series is “Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…Maybe!”  Now the girl is 13. She handles many adolescent issues, including a crush, moving, a death in the family, feeling fat and problems with girlfriends.  'Secrets' provides a book kids and parents and grandparents can share and use as a sounding board for needed communication between the generations.

Both “The Truth” and “Secrets” are great for parents, grandparents, older siblings and teachers to establish lines of communication with the tweens and teens in their lives. Both books are being re-released by Sky Pony Press.

Dr. Holstein believes that getting in touch with one's strengths, talents and potential at every age, as well as learning how to hold on to the wise, playful, happy, gutsy and energetic girl that still resides within each woman is essential for mental health.

To assist this process she has written many books, including: case study material as presented in ‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’; inspirational stories as presented in ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU’ and romance, mystery books designed to bring fun, excitement, romance and positive psychological truths into women's lives.  Latest books are:  Parts 1 and 2 of ‘Next Year in Jerusalem’, available in paper and as e-books; Parts 1,2 and 3 of ‘Next Year in Jerusalem’ available in one book, incorporated into ‘Around Every Corner, Romance & Mystery...’.

Dr. Holstein is available for media interviews and can be reached using the information below or by email at All of her works are available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and all other online retailers. More information is available at her website at Videos from the first Creative Performance Workshop are available on Youtube at


Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for happiness.  She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness,  Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting.
She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time on line, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine.

‘The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy’ is in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. ‘Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!’ received rave reviews as an inspirational storybook. ‘DELIGHT’ is available in two versions, paperback and a CD that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice.

Other works include ‘The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything)’, 'Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…Maybe!’ and 'Around Every Corner: Romance And Mystery . . . '


Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
170 Morris Ave.,
Long Branch, New Jersey 07740
Twitter: @truth4girls